The Importance of Good Relationships
One of the most important things in life is to learn to love yourself...
We all know someone in a less than a healthy relationship, and it's something we typically want to avoid for ourselves. Whilst on the grand scale of things, there are some truly awful relationships out there, that's a whole other story - a lot of people rate theirs on just the "okay" scale, and to be honest, those are not exactly the kind of romances that you'd write a love story about.
Of course, there are those in the happiest relationships in the world, and it's almost unfair. You're not quite sure whether you feel a little sickened by how comfortable and content they are together, but you know that's what you want, deep down. Of course, the timing for everyone is different. Whilst a lot of us have looked enviably upon those high school sweethearts who've known from day one that they literally found the one, for most young people, getting married and settling down as a teenager or even in your twenties just isn't realistic. To have a good relationship, you need the right person, but the timing really is everything as well.
Sometimes, we meet the right person unexpectedly. That doesn't mean the timing is necessarily wrong, at all. In fact, it's often when we least expect it that the right one comes along. For some of us, we get a feeling. Others among us are more superstitious, and relying on horoscopes is very popular. However, your horoscope can only go so far as to say whether you'll fall in love, so you shouldn't force it.
A Pisces woman, for example, is very compatible with men who are Taurus, Capricorn, Cancer or Scorpio - but she needs to learn that love and compatibility aren't always the same thing!
Other people take a more logical approach to relationships. This is great; to a point. For example, if you're so busy waiting for Mr Right to come along and tick all your boxes, you might miss the person who's been right under your nose all along. Whilst having high standards can be a great thing, and you really shouldn't settle for less, you might be doing yourself a huge disservice if you're too afraid to dip your toes into new waters, from time to time!
Whether you opt to be single, or you pursue a relationship old or new, the most important thing is to be happy. One of the most important things you can do in life is to learn to love yourself before anyone else will love you. Don't force anything, allow love to come naturally. But at the same time, don't be afraid to admit when something is no longer healthy, or if it's simply run its course. You don't need love to validate you, and there are always people who can help if a relationship is toxic.
You are not alone - until you are - and to be honest, that can be okay, too.
Disclaimer: Guest post. Photo belongs to Sian Victoria.